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My advice: make sure you don’t get too ahead of yourself. No one can tell you if you do or don’t love someone, but most young relationships will end simply because people grow and change. Which over all is a good thing. But as far as high school goes, don’t over think it. If you guys still live near each other then dating shouldn’t be an issue. Besides, you have this whole summer ahead of you! Live in the now. Why even bother talking about high school? Enjoy each other’s company. Maybe you’ll be together forever! Honestly, probably not. But that’s okay! You’ll date lots of people and learn what you really love in people. Keep that in mind if/when you’re greeted by heartache. It sucks. I’m not going to lie. But it’s necessary to get to the next step of your life. Enjoy this relationship. And your next. And all of them. Remember that life will lead you to the right one eventually.
It’s the 21st century, girls can make the first move. I’ve actually made the first move with most of the guys I dated. It’s scary but knowing how scary it is just shows you maybe why he hasn’t done it yet. Just text him and ask if he wants to grab ice cream sometime or go to a school sporting event together. At 14 I know dates can be kind of limited but see if he wants to come over to watch a movie. A date is only a date. Give it a shot, you have nothing to lose. Good luck!! xx
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Tell him. If you don’t it’s gonna eat you alive. And talking to him is the only way to know for sure what his feelings are. If he really is your best friend, he’ll understand even if he doesn’t return the same feelings. Just let him know you’ve been having some not-just-friends thoughts about him and see what he says. I know how terrifying this can be! I went through this exact thing about a month ago. And he didn’t feel the same way. But he’s still my best friend and everything is totally normal. The awkwardness lasted about 20 minutes until we watched a movie together and our friendship over shadowed everything. Just hold on to the friendship you guys have and it’ll work out no matter his feelings. Best of luck!
I know you’re hoping for a concrete answer. Drink 3 coups of tea, spin around on one foot, and eat 2 apples. But unfortunately, everyone is affected by breakups differently so everyone gets over them differently. Him moving on is probably how he’s dealing with the break up. A rebound is a very common choice. But a lot of people aren’t ready to move on yet. What I find helps me is for at least a couple days, I allow myself to sulk. I curl up in bed watching chick flicks on Netflix and shoveling moosetracks ice cream into my mouth with some chamomile tea. And let yourself cry! These days are important to let it all out so you can start your mind over (in a sense). Keep reminding yourself how amazing YOU are. You’re gonna have times when you think “He used to always hold the door for me!” or “Remember when he bought me those flowers!” But if you guys broke up, there’s a reason and the reason is both of you. Remember that there’s someone else out there who has all of his great attributes and more. After a few days of tears, just focus on your own self confidence because YOU ARE AMAZING and you’re going to find someone who can see that. Or maybe you’ll decide you don’t want to be with anyone. You don’t need a guy in your life. You are strong and independent. Make sure you love yourself because that’s what’s going to heal your heart the fastest. Good luck, sweetie! Feel better ox
My icon? Captain!! (His name is Rob but I call him cap because he looks like Captain America) He’s my best friend. We were dating at the time of the picture though.
Q: Okay so im Rose im 17 and desperately need your advice, so ive known this guy Ben since my freshman yr of high school (im now about to graduate my senior yr) weve always been good friends and hung out a lot and saw eachother at parties and whatnot all through out high school, the middle of my freshman year (January 2011) ben told me he liked me and I had just gotten into a relationship with a guy 2 years older and turned Ben, down but continued to be good friends and stayed really close, after a year and a half of dating jimmy we broke up when he went to college because of the distance(july 2012), ben was always my go to person when me and jimmy were having problems because ben knew how much of a control freak he was so it kept us really close considering me and jimmy always fought, ben was now talking to this girl christina so it wouldn’t of been right to expect to just start talking to ben, Now starting my junior year I starting talking to this guy Anthony who was a year older and just started his senior year we started dating in October(2012) until this passed september (2013) because he was also going away to college. I know they alllll leave me L jk. Now that me and ben have been talking since November and both seem to be much more grown up and experienced, I have since moved a hour away from where I used to live in nyc but like the passed years me and ben have continued to stay closer than ever we both drive to eachothers house and see eachother atleast 3 times a week, my family loves him and his mom has wanted me to be with ben since the first time we met freshman year, he recently said “I love you” to me for the first time and I said it back things have gotten pretty serious between us and what I need your help with is whether I continue to be with him even though in 4 months we’ll be going to universities on opposite sides of the country ill be attending University of south Carolina, he will be attending- UCLA(hes super smart) the tricky thing is we’ll be going to each others proms together next month and I don’t want to be left without a prom date and potentially without a best friend , id really appreciate if you can take the time to read this and help me out , thanks in advance! A: I’m sorry you’ve had such bad luck with boyfriends going away to college, I know how much that can suck. But if you and Ben both really care about each other, don’t break up just because of distance that will eventually occur. In august it’ll be smart to be aware of how tricky things will be and maybe space will help you guys keep what you have. But that’s so far down the road! Don’t let that control your choices now! You like this kid so be with him! Have a great time at prom, do stuff with him in the summer! College may change things for you guys or it may not. Right now you have no idea so all you can do is enjoy the time you guys have together now. I hope this helped and I hope you guys have a great time together whether it lasts 4 months or 4 years. Best of luck?
First of all, you’re not a stale potato chip. You’re a great person and before talking to anyone you need to feel happy with yourself and confident because it’ll show to others. (Fake it ‘til you make it if you need to. Pretending you’re confident usually results with you feeling better in the end.)
Once you realize you’re awesome, you walk up to this dude and say “Hi.” If you guys have never talked before, introduce yourself. If he knows who you are, strike up a random conversation about something from youth group. Make sure you talk to him at least a little bit before, during and/or after youth group. If conversation is natural and he responds, then don’t be afraid to be the one to suggest grabbing a bite sometime or seeing a movie! And remember that he might be shy! Just because he’s not super talkative, don’t get too discouraged! But just walk up and bring up something from youth group or talk about the band on his shirt or ask where he goes to school. Something to get him talking! Best of luck, hope this helped. xx