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Hey, sorry I didn’t get part 1? I think something’s wrong with my ask. But I’ll try to go off of this half of it.. The fact alone that you feel guilty stealing his time away from his girlfriend says two things about you. 1. You have good character. You understand that other people’s feelings are important. You’re a good person, so make sure you remember that. And 2. You don’t hold him responsible. You may be the one spending so much time with him but he’s the one making the choice to spend time with you over his girlfriend. On top of that he’s complimenting you.
I have a guy best friend and if/when he starts dating someone we’ve already decided we’re gonna have a talk to set boundaries. Maybe a talk is what you guys need. If you can tell him anything, you can tell him this. He sounds like a great guy, he’ll understand your issue. He may say that his feelings for you are stronger than he thought in which case he should probably break things off with the other girl. If he says that his feelings towards you are completely platonic and that his girlfriend is fine with the relationship you two have, then you’re gonna have to accept that and continue to respect the relationship they have. If it is the ladder, then make sure you also release your guilt. You haven’t made a move. You’re not plotting to ruin them. You’re just enjoying the amazing friendship you have. Maybe in time you guys will be together, who knows. But for now, just enjoy his friendship and remind yourself that you’re a good person and are doing nothing wrong. And make sure you talk to him! Good luck with all of this and make sure not to let your own worries ruin such a great and rare friendship.
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Freshman year is a great year because people are making friends even this late in the year? My first suggestion would be, if you have a class with him, sit next to him. Then you can introduce yourself or if you’re not feeling that bold you can start by asking about homework or complaining about how boring the teacher’s lectures are. If it’s assigned seating you can even just see him in the hall and say “Hey you’re in my [subject] class, right? Do you understand what the project is about?” Or something like that. If you’re not in class with him then you’re gonna have to be a little more ballsy. If he’s on a sports team go up and talk about the game last night. If you really don’t know much about him, just complement him. It’ll show that you’re into him at least a little and can lead to conversation. Try to pick something that will strike up a response though. Instead of mentioning his shoes say something about a sports jersey he wears or a car (I’m guessing he doesn’t have one yet, though), or his taste in music if he wears a band shirt. Also keep talking to your guy friend for advice; he knows your school and the guy more than I do. Just be confident and hold your head high! And remember, you have nothing to lose :) Good luck!
As hard as it may be, my advice is to bite the bullet and tell him. It’s either that or have things stay as they are now and clearly you are not happy with the ladder. If you guys have kissed then it’s not gonna come as a total surprise to him that you have feelings. Just let him know your feelings. If nothing else, you will at least get it off your chest and get a straight answer from him. Be open minded, maybe he doesn’t want anything serious still, but that doesn’t mean he’s not into you. Just let him know and see what he says. Good luck and keep an open mind!
If things between the two of you aren’t working out the way they used to, then continuing to live together could end very badly. If your relationship with your mom isn’t strong enough for you to go back and try to reason with her (it’s just one D) and your father is not in the picture, I’d try going to an extended family member first. A grandma or aunt or older cousin who can at least house you until you get things together more and can afford a safe place for you to live on your own. If there’s no family to go to, see if one of your friends need a roommate. Friends will have your back. Make sure you have an open discussion with your boyfriend about where you guys stand and if space might be good for you two before making any big plans to move out. Even if you guys still love each other, living with someone changes the relationship. I hope the talk goes well and you feel at home wherever you live. Best of luck!
This (whatever the story may be) is such a small part of your life, no one can rightfully judge you for it. However, this is the only message I got from you and it says part 4 so sorry something must have happened to the other parts. Mind resending them? Thanks and sorry about the mishap.